Wednesday, October 22, 2014

There's no stopping the clock

      I literally took a double take when I saw three preteen girls I have known since they were munchkins. I was flabbergasted at their growth over the summer.
     “Growing like weeds” fits sprouting legs and blooming shapes, and simultaneously keeps moms alert monitoring appropriate outfits.
     It occurs to me that I have written my share of columns about slowing down and taking in life at a leisurely pace. I think that I will shake it up a bit and reverse the motion.
     So, full speed ahead.



     The movie, “Boyhood” starring Ethan Hawke, Ellar Coltrane and Patricia Arquette fascinates me, and I am delighted that The Star Theatre in Dansville thought enough of its patrons to show it. The multiplexes in the region have options to suit all customers’ interests, but it is tough for a one-screen operation to mind read and select a quality production.
     It is incredible that the movie project went on over a span of twelve years. I consider that a long time to honor a contract by anybody to anything these days in our commitment phobic society. That’s beside the point, though.
     What impresses me is “Boyhood” unfolds in just under three hours, and it is like viewing life in fast time through a living room window. It takes a lot of emotional energy to engage in what’s put out in front of me.
      It is truly a coming of age story following Ellar’s character, Mason from first through twelfth grades. The phases of childhood are represented realistically, and I will admit that I suffered vicariously through rough family patches. (Well-buttered popcorn can be helpful.)
     A few curves are thrown at mom, Patricia Arquette but she has fortitude to push on through. In other situations, Arquette makes bad decisions and her children are forced to deal with the consequences of her choices. It’s not pleasant to observe, and I stuff more kernels in my mouth to ward off bad feelings.      

     Carefree dad, Ethan Hawke does a terrific job listening as well as stressing the importance of keeping the lines of communication open. Hawke shows-up and stays involved with his kids, and I hope that moviegoers notice. It pays off in more ways than one.  
     The love from his estranged parents and sister aids in developing Ellar’s resilience. He leaves for college feeling like a worthy individual, and I am convinced that he has the potential for greatness.
     I return home from the theatre and shake my head at how fast life slips by. There’s no slowing down the aging process. There is no miracle that I have come across that would put me back to age twenty-five without forfeiting my accumulated wisdom. (I don’t want to give that up.) And, I do believe that I have sage advice worthy to share with younger people if they will listen.
    Our kids and grandkids — count in great grandkids — are perfect examples of time marching on. How can it be? They are walking, starting kindergarten and going off to college like speeding broncos let out of the training corral.


     Facing up to my gardens after a vacation is difficult. Those weeds have turned pristine rows of manicured flora into a virtual jungle that will take a lot of extra management to straighten out. The flowers appear to grow at a normal pace, but the competition is way out of control.
     Weeds have survival skills that rival the hardiest plant. Think about how hard it is to yank one out by its roots anchored securely in the soil.
     Originally, weeds indicated something undesirable, as weeds grew where they were not wanted. It started as a term in agriculture. I’ve had my own experiences of planting mint and thyme in a small plot and watching those herbs take over space as fast as I pull them out.
    The term, “growing like a weed” has evolved to mean quick advancement like a company that takes off. Livingston County is proud of its successful main street restoration grants providing the impetus for small business owners to achieve their economic potential.
     It could be a group of dedicated citizens combining their efforts tirelessly for the betterment of cultural experiences in the community. It comes together quickly when the timing is right like the newly formed Dansville ArtWorks.

  
    Google has changed my whole approach to research, and in only 13 years. What’s at my fingertips is more than mind boggling. Although I don’t often read movie reviews ahead — I make up my own mind — I am curious to read “Boyhood” details about the production and the cast lineup. I can do it rather quickly with Google and go on my way.
     It is hard to believe that it has been 13 years since 9/11. I was in Utah touring national parks, and today, here I am visiting the memorial museum in lower Manhattan. I have watched the site evolve from the pile of rubble to the inspirational remembrance it is now.
    Growing pains can come at any point. It’s not only about childhood physical aches. Older people know that the faster they move their bodies, the better able they are to maintain independence.   
     Time flies when you’re having fun. Weekends race by and before you know it, Sunday is upon you, the workweek ahead and more of the usual drill.

     Speed — It’s a fascinating concept — shows up in all areas of life. Race you to the water cooler?